I had a private coaching session with someone before he left for the US. He told me a few things that probably was one of the best thing that happened to me. I want to share a summary of them and hopefully it will benefit more people into how these simple concepts can be applied to real life.
1) Be honest and ask if you need to ask.
It sounds so simple, but most of the time we hold back and are afraid to ask, creating a story in our head on what would happen if we did ask, what could potentially go wrong, after analyzing a lot, we just end up not asking and getting upset about not getting what we want. This leads on to the next concept…
2) Dont expect an outcome and attach an outcome to things.
ie, dont expect to get a specific answer or reaction when you ask. This takes away all the resentment and pain we are afraid of when we want to ask someone for something.
Ive applied this principle for the last 48 hours and so far I can only say its been life-changing for me. Simply being honest and asking without attaching any particular outcome takes such a huge load off my head. These things would otherwise sit there and build up a resentment, that would eventually grow so big that it would create major problems in life.
I always knew communication is key towards achieving great things, but it was refreshing to realize a concept so simple can be so transformational in life.
Werid… no content was saved. Just about to step out to go to London in a bit, but really looking forward to moving back to London again and enjoying all it has to offer. Sometimes you have to lose something to understand what you really had. I will be having a very active few weeks coming up. Lot of travels and tours planned!
Now begins a brand new Chapter in my Life. I retired for the 5th time in the last 9 years, and hopefully this time its for good and wont be requiring to go back to IT jobs again.
So what have I got going?
1) Preparing some trips for the beach photoshoot world tour this year. (more on that coming soon)
2) Just joined this new network marketing program which has a tonne of internet marketing strategies. Might be interesting, but still checking things out.
3) At the verge of making my first Product launch which is targeted for my first even 7-figure launch by end of the year.
4) Preparing a bunch of small wordpress sites to flip over and make some quick cash.
So, looking forward to updating you on these in the near future. Has to be a short one today. Have a nice one!
Long time I have not had a chance to write on this blog. But from now I will resume blogging again and give you guys an insight into my life, goals, dreams and dramas.
We will begin with a recent event and give some accounts of the travels I had done over the last 6-8 months every now and then.
As I speak, I have managed to move back into London after what seemed like forever. Now settling down and looking for new tenants for a 3 bed flat I just took.
Also looking forward to cutting my nails again. Over the past 6-8 months I have travelled to many places including Europe, Ukraine, Turkey, Thailand, Bangladesh to name a few.
At the moment working on getting back into shape, learning russian, learning bicycling and learning to swim. These are my priorities. No partying tonight, just have to stay put and get myself organized!
To set you off I want to leave you with a encounter I had with a monkey in Thailand:
Me handshaking with a monkey on a mutually beneficial (rather one-sided) exchange of nuts.
Currently I am in Barcelona, out of my europe-wide tour in search of finding local talents. Out of all the things one thing you must do is get the Nuts from Passeig de Gracia metro station. Here is the steps you need to follow to find the specific nuts:
1) Take the line 3 or line 4 to Passeig de Gracia metro station.
2) Instead of getting out, follow the directions to switch from one line to another. There will be a long walk along a corrider.
3) At the corner of the corridor there will be this small cornershop run by some indian guys selling all kinds of snacks and tobaccoes.
4) In the shop right in the front there will be aligned some small plastic packets of Nuts.
5) There will be 5 or 6 varieties of nuts. There is only 2 varieties of nuts here that are good and tastes really good. 1 the chocolate coated nuts and 2 the sweet brown coated looking nuts. The 2 packets of nuts will cost in total 2 euros 40 cents. But you are going to love the nuts.
So there you go, the most famous thing barcelona is known for. Do let me know what you think of the nuts if you eat them!!
See you in another lifetime!
During my travels meeting all the different people, one of the things I learnt was people really appreciate it when you are *genuinely* interested in knowing about them, their dreams, their goals, their visions, their views, their desires in life.
The more I progress in my life the more I realize the real power for us as individual human beings lies in being able to see our reflection in other people. This leads us towards the path towards self realization and self discovery.
I have always wondered what is it that I feel when I meet and speak to people. For a long time I was under the impression that I am like a 'watcher' of things, similar to 'the watcher' from moon in marvel comics, I can watch silently and draw my power by watching what other people do, think, act like, and enjoy. Then came a point in my life when I would completely detach myself from any judgements and could view the exact point of view others have, … but surprisingly even if it was a view that I was personally opposed of. So in essence its like believing two completely extreme opposite views and agreeing with both at the same time. I found a great profound depth within me when I started seeing life this way, I was beginning to find more freedom as I was no longer tied down by the social, psycological, emotional shackles that binds us all into our induvidual ways of thinking, strange as it may sound.
The other day, on the 15th March, when I was doing shoots with a few of my models in London, I was sitting with a few people who had completely different ways of life then mine, the way they interacted, viewed life, felt feelings, were all diferent. But for the first time in my life I was able to feel them deep within, their deep thoughts and underlying emotions that drives them to be who they were. My greatest surprise in my path towards self-discovery happened when we were driving by a graveyard (a really big one near Epping Forest)… I was so shocked that just by merely being there I could feel the people standing near the grave, I could feel the pain, the sorrow, the missing of the loved ones lying in front of them, and even the inhabitants of the graves being helpless and not being able to communicate with them, I could almost feel it all at the same time. The feeling was the most profound feeling I have ever felt. I just thought I would share this with my readers since I find life has so many layers of discovery and if we continue to seek, we can find abilities and feelings and emotions beyond what we think we are capable of feeling.
In any case, I am about to embark on my next location – Europe – tomorrow. I will keep you posted on how it goes there!
During my last day in California I was privileged to be able to visit a place called 'Abalone Cove' right near Long Beach, California. The place was completely surreal. However the tide was very high that day so we missed out being able to see the amazing marine life the place is suppose to have.
Nevertheless we had a great time in that place and its definitely a place I would want to visit again in future. They charge $5 to enter and the place is easy to miss if you dont pay attention when driving.
Here are some photos of my friends from the place:
Presently I am in London enjoying the posh Central London lifestyle. This has been the most central place I have stayed in. I am staying at Picadilly Circus, right in the middle of everything. I will make a post about the london visit later on.
I am leaving for Belgium next Wednesday, will pass by a few places in Northern France on the way back and by 22nd I am looking to get a place sorted out in Monaco. My PA is hard at work to get a place sorted for me. So a month there should let me finally escape the English winter and let me add another warm destination to add to my list of worlds greatest places I traveled to.
OK the cold weather has not passed here. I have been here for over 10 days now and it feels like forever now that I am back in London. The work got extended so it doesnt seem like I will be able to become 100% fulltime into travelling just yet. Also found out that I could only get 2 weeks out in April, so I might have to push back returning to California a bit more, considering going to France instead. There are parts of Southern France which should be warm by now.
I am now replicating the model I started in California and now asking local girls if they want to do photoshoots. I am also moving forward with the idea of the superagency for models. Everyone I speak to seem to like the idea, I have a feeling it will be a hit.
No beaches here, so have to think of something clever to do great photoshoots in a cold beachless city … one friend suggested going to Epping Forest. So I guess it will be that and the London street fashion. Have spoken to a few girls who are really interested in putting things together. Its amazing how recepting and cooperative people can be when you are giving that out yourself, it spreads like wildfire. Ever since coming back from the US I have been more receptive and friendly with people and have had good results.
Anyways, had some time to work on a few of the photos from California. Here they are:
The Mesmerizing Rockpile Beach at Laguna Beach, California
Last Sunday (21st Feb) it was the end of my first trip to the west coast of america.
Since the venice beach weekend, so much more happened that its been difficult to keep up with it on the blog. But I will try to summarize.
Mardi Gras: On tuesday the 16th Feb, my friend and I went off to see the local Mardi Gras at San Diego. It was an interesting event, though not as good as Rio as flashing skin is illegal in the US and people can get arrested for it! (talk about freedom!). But nevertheless we met a bunch of really cool people and it was like a party on the street and it was also non-violent. I was being given beads by lots of people, I dont know why, but people kept telling me I had a good vibe and just randomly walking upto me and giving me beads, my friend was not getting any!
More Photoshoots and beaches: The last week in California was by far the most interesting week, I hooked up with a few more local girls to do a photoshoot and get a tour of a few more beaches, this time it worked out much better then before. I went to Laguna beach, Wind and Sea, and on the last day to Abalone Cove. The tide was quite high. I was quite happy that I managed to get some good shots done and feedback so far had been good on the photos taken. The ability and opportunity to meet nature, the ocean, the trees, the fresh air so up close was something I really enjoyed.
So what came out of this Trip to California?
1. Self Realization - In this journey I was able to learn that no matter what, the best solution in life is to be yourself, to accept yourself for who you really are, and to really dig deeper within to find out the things about yourself that shines.
2. Setting of Priorities and learn to let go of interesting projects: My friend in San Diego gave me a very useful insight – In order to succeed in life one must sometimes let go of things that he/she likes and have a laser focus on 1 item only. This is the formula for success. I had to drop a few projects that seemed interesting, but when I worked out the maths it didnt quite add up. I guess its part of the minimalist lifestyle approach as well, try to find ways to do the minimum amount of things that covers the maximum amount of requirements in life. The main 3 being money, love and spiritual.
3. Possibly Repeat Visits: California is the first place during my travels that struck me as a place I want to come back to sometime very soon. There is something very magical about the place, its beauty, its people, its weather and the spirit.
Had the worst possible time trying to visit 'Venice Beach' today. The beach is meant to be very funky, a bit like our camden town in london, but spread over a beach. and indeed it was a bit funky, people were playing weird sports, skareboarders everywhere, kids, adults, everyone hanging out in the beach. some nice rocks.
But PARKING! I had to spend 3 hours looking for parking and in the end had to give up and leave! Also had to tell the girls who came in for a photoshoot that we cant do it. I spent from 6am today to now (8pm) and all I got was about 20 minutes of shoot time! Next time never trust a girl to coordinate these things!
Anyways, managed to catch the sunset at Malibu, I will be posting a video of that soon. Right now I need to figure out still where to stay for the night. One motel owner was kind enough to give me her wireless internet (and she never met me, it was all through the phone, she isnt even in the motel!), so I am currently in their parking lot of Rest Motel in Santa Monica using their internet.
I dont think I will take a makeup artist for tomorrow anymore after seeing how we managed to waste 2 hours today. I would much rather photoshop out my photos.
I will keep you posted how the rest of this weekend in LA goes! Malibu is super expensive, but very beautiful. Hopefully I can get my fair share of it tomorrow!
Until then, keep dancing!